It is important that for your children to believe knowing that love is wonderful and that what matters most is that they love themselves first, it is also necessary that you teach your children that love should not be forced. This way they can have a healthy love relationship in the future.
The thing about true love is that it is never forced. That is why looking for it is counterproductive. Only true love will find you when you don't try to force it. This is because it involves chemistry and that's something that just can't be recreated or activated if it doesn't already exist.
Teach your children to live for themselves and to allow love to find them. This will be true and they will have learned to enjoy life without longing for something they do not have. It's just one of those kinds of things that the more you look for it, the longer it will take you to find it. And if you search for it too much, you can end up with the wrong person altogether.
You don't have to be in love with the idea of love
Teach your kids the following lesson: If you don't live for yourself while you're single, you'll end up obsessed with the idea of love instead of really wanting a real relationship with someone. You will see every guy you meet as a potential partner without really knowing why.
The idea of love is great and all, but it distorts what true love really is. If you live for yourself, love will come and it will be a realistic kind of love that you can enjoy for the rest of your life if you are lucky.
Living for yourself and allowing love to find you is the best possible route a person can take if that is what they want. If love is the end of the game, then live for yourself and it will come.