It is not easy to discover the ways in which a child is able to say that he loves you. No one is more important in a child's life than their parents. Young children feel safe knowing that their parents will be by their side and that they are there by and for them.. The availability of parents is vital to their well-being. When children make new discoveries, they will share that joy, that love and that trust towards you.
By sharing the joys and pleasures of life with you, your child will feel good about himself because he will have the reminder that his parents will always be by his side, for good and for bad. All children show their love in different ways, it is not always by saying it with words, and that is why it is important to know how they do it.
When it makes you waste your time
You are not wasting your time, you are with your child ... that is the most valuable and wonderful time you can spend in your life. But it seems that every time you have to get somewhere your child suddenly begins to entertain himself with anything or wants you to be by his side. It may take you half an hour to walk a section that only takes 5 minutes because your child wants to show you all the ants on the way ... But he is sharing his discoveries with you! Is there anything more wonderful than that?
Children live in the present moment and lack a sense of time - adults should learn a little more about this that we have forgotten over the years. They are with you at that moment and there is nothing better than THAT for them. It's time to start savoring those moments with our little ones in the same way that they do with us, right?
When they play catch for you to catch them
Children like to run away and be happy for you to go after them to catch them ... it is their celebration of independence, it is their way of telling you that they love you but that they are different from you, with their own personal space and personality . This is wonderful. When your son plays with you to catch him, he is showing you the confidence he feels towards you, because he knows that you will follow him when he escapes. He shows you his freedom, but then he stops because he wants to be by your side.
The game of running and catching, is a sample of your union and your bond. Your children love you unconditionally but at the same time they show that they have their own adventurous spirit and that they want to discover and explore the world with your guide and your guidance.
When he plays with food
Mealtime or food is a symbol of bonding that children have with their mother. Since they are born, it is the mother figure who feeds them, who gives them the necessary nutrients for them to grow and develop. When children play with food they don't want to make you nervous, they don't want you to get angry ... they want to share their experiences and discoveries with you, they want you to participate ... to guide them with affection.
When you put food in your mouth with a smile on your face or when it starts to stain around you, you probably have to act quickly so that everything does not end up in a mess ... but at the same time, enjoy that special moment that he is giving you your son, while he tells you that he loves you without words.
When he wants your kisses and your hugs
Children need the unconditional love of their parents, and this translates into hugs and kisses. It is possible that sometime you want to give him a kiss or a hug, your son does not want to give it to you. Don't worry, he's not telling you that he doesn't love you… he's just showing you his independence and asking you to respect his own space and his decisions. But when you don't ask him, he will surprise you with a big hug and a kiss of true love… because he doesn't have to.
As much as children want to show their independence in many different ways, they also need 'the necessary fuel' with your affection and your love. That fuel is your hugs and your kisses, both from mom and dad. When your child hugs you, he is showing you that he knows that you will always be by his side to provide comfort and security ... because being safe is being at home.
When it runs into your arms when you come home
Any father or mother who comes home and his children run to hug him to welcome him ... it is the best gift that life can give you on that day. There is no money in the world that can pay for the feeling of complete happiness that a child's joy brings when you get home from work. That feeling is thanks to the fact that your son tells you without words that he loves you more than anything in the world and that he was wanting you to come to hug you and show you all his love.
Young children build trust every time the parent leaves and returns. That is why it is important that you always come back before your children go to bed or that you talk to it in some way every day in case you have to be absent.
Do the routines and habits
Young children like routine, consistency and rituals and when they ask you to read a story every night, brush their teeth with you or do the routines with you… they are also telling you that they love you with all their heart. He will ask you to read the story because he loves you, because he loves doing it with you, because that is part of them.
Children make sense of their world through routines and order. What is predictable is safe and reassuring for them. Routines give them a sense of security and love.