After having our son we suffer quite an important adaptation period. We have to deal with physiological and hormonal changes and with a great psychological responsibility. It is a new stage of life, we are going to identify ourselves as mothers and in some cases we suffer a double identification, we are mothers of our own son but at the same time we are still the daughter of our own mother.
Each one wants to find their role in a very responsible way and it is here the position to be played by the grandparents, wanting to help and assume the role of second parents. This can lead to create some conflict But if we take it in a limited way, we can all contribute our bit.
What role should they play
The role of grandparents can be a very important help, they have been parents and can contribute very valuable advice. That is why first of all they should respect all decisions made by parents on the education of children and therefore any measure that they adopt with caution will favor the good emotional development in the grandchildren. Their role is crucial so that they have a fond memory of them.
How to handle the situation
In the new role to play of the new mother, she will make it her who should implement a series of consistent standards to your lifestyle. Decide what is appropriate to do and when to comply with the family intimacy. It is important make it clear from the start so there are no misunderstandings.
Grandparents must respect that decision and keep it. Many times they forget that the new role that parents have to adopt they have to do from inexperience but their instinct will also remain active by nature and they will surely adopt measures with the best results.
It is consequently that the new birth makes believe what it is the place they have to occupy. Their role is undoubtedly the one they have to play without exercising parental authority. It is not necessary to provoke tensions but they have to limit their help and accompaniment to a certain degree, happening in the same way in that of the parents, grandparents cannot be demanded more than they want to offer.
Tips for being a good grandparent postpartum and after
In the care provided regarding grandparents always the one that is loaned by them will be better than anyone who may be out of the family environment. This point can be of great debate but it is true that if love is present in this dedication, it we can remember them with affection and longing.
For this factor to be present, they must handle various factors well, it is important that interfere with education but not with too much emphasis. Regarding opinions, as we have said, it is also important respect the parent's decision.
As good advice, try to guide parents to have patience and temperance with the child. You have to transmit family values and try to create a great family bond. At this point you have to maintain a balance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, since this link can be maintained as a shock relationship.
It is important too respect the child's schedules, since it is of great interest for parents to be able to maintain the same nap, meal, and walk times ... On the other hand, the moments of constant and long visits should also be limited, since parents need to have their space between parent and child.
There is no doubt that one of the favorable points regarding the role of grandparents may be their high knowledge and great wisdom But it is true that they can also learn a lot from everything that a grandchild can offer them, between the two they can contribute great experiences and knowledge.