Children and adolescents are trapped in the desire to be more mature and grow faster, to be more independent, more capable, but they also need and want to be cared for and protected by you all the time. To be happy they need to feel the protection you give them, the security of a family and the trust of parents. who love him unconditionally.
Children should know that they can have both. The love you feel towards him and that there are limits and rules at home does not mean that they cannot be in control of some decisions at different times. The little ones are used to obeying the orders of adults all the time, and giving them the opportunity to choose from time to time will help them feel more self-confident and also to be able to promote healthy decision-making.
It is important that they are given the opportunity to have options within limits that you have previously established. For example, if your child wants to go to bed later, you can tell him that you understand, but that he needs to get a good night's sleep so he can get up early for school. You can say something like: 'How about you go to bed whenever you want on Saturdays and holidays but you try to be there before 9.30pm on nights when there is school the next day?
Sometimes the decisions can be simpler, like choosing what they want to have for dessert or the clothes they want to wear to go out. It is important to give children from an early age the possibility to decide for themselves, so they will also learn to say no or to make their own decisions in other contexts.
Do you allow your children to make small decisions in their daily life and thus feel that they are in control?