The truth is that when talking about the ideal age to have a first child, today it is something very relative because depends on multiple factors that condition the decision, regardless of whether or not you really want to be a mother for the first time. Many women who want to be mothers feel conditioned by work, by the little time they have, by fear of losing their job due to staying in condition, by the stress that a child can cause, by how expensive it is to be a mother and little help that mothers receive in our country.
On the other hand, there are women who can still be mothers they decide not to be in order to have a quieter life, so as not to have to be tied to any couple, so as not to have to undergo any fertility treatment, so as not to spend money, to be able to climb professionally and a long etcetera that is very personal according to the life of each person.
Personally, it was time for me to be a mother when my son decided that it was time to go into the world. Not before, not after. Because there are times a woman knows when the time is right, because although certain fears and uncertainties invade, deep in your heart, you know that the time has come.
But when it comes to age, when would be the ideal time to have your first child? What is the correct age in each case?
The best age to have a first child
There are people who think that the perfect age to have a first child is between 25 and 29 years old. This age has more to do with a social factor since at these ages initially and following the social norms of our community, people in this period of their lives would already have a job and economic security.
But today these data can be very relative since at these ages there are many and many young women who are still in their parents' house due to the impossibility of emancipation due to the precariousness of work in our society, something that will undoubtedly that the birth rate falls among many women and men who want to be parents but the family finances do not allow it.
20, 25, 30, or 0 years old?
There are many people who think that the best age to start having children is 25 years old for the reasons I have mentioned above, but there are also those who think that the best age is 20 years old because you have more vitality and many years ahead.
But today, being in your 20s simply may not get many people's heads. How many young people at this age are still too immature to take care of themselves? Would it be appropriate for them to do it as a baby? In these cases as in many teenage pregnancies would be the parents who end up taking care of the grandchildren And this would not be a good idea for a baby who needs his parents, either.
In addition, many young people with these ages still do not have a job so they could not support a baby to feed it and give it all the basic needs that a little one needs.
But personally I consider that this of the ages to be a mother for the first time varies depending on the educational level of the people or the culture in which they are. There are people who grow up thinking that they must wait more than 25 years to have children, others that they must pass 30 and even 35 to be able to "live life before becoming parents."
But we also have to be aware that there are still cultures that believe that women should be mothers as soon as possible without thinking about their needs as a woman, if not that they only think about them with a reproductive objective. Something that without a doubt, I hope that one day this thought will change since there are many women in the world who must live in freedom and be able to decide for themselves.
Although the ideal age to have the first child is still very relative, because it will depend on the social and cultural context which one opts for one age or another.
Things to keep in mind
It is also important to note that there are women who want to be mothers from a very young age but for whatever reasons have been prevented from being able to be mothers at an early age, and that without being able to choose, the years go by and they cannot be mothers. Many of these women end up going to assisted reproduction clinics so they can help them become mothers, something that is not achieved overnight. For this reason, there are women who still wanting to be mothers have to wait a long time and may become mothers beyond the age of 35 and even close to or past 40.
It is true that having children at age 20 today is irresponsible if you do not have the appropriate means, but physically it is the ideal age because you have the necessary energy to be with them all the time without feeling too tired.
In addition, the fact of having a stable relationship or not is also very important. There are brave women who decide to become single mothers, and although it is true that it is more complicated both economically and emotionally, more and more women decide to venture into the world of motherhood without a father or a stable partner.
And you, what do you think about it? ¿You think it is better to have young children Or that it is preferable to live life and enjoy it while you can and be a parent after 30 or 35? Do you think that today things are complicated in our society to be able to be parents? The people who can choose are really lucky, because there are many women and many couples who do not choose, they simply wait for the long-awaited news that the baby is on the way to finally arrive.