Unfortunately, many children at school have to endure bullying and intimidation behaviors from other children. It is important for parents to be aware that bullying can happen at any time. Your children must be prepared to deal with these situations in a healthy way, no matter how uncomfortable they are.
Nobody wants their kids to be helpless when it comes to bullying. If you don't prepare your children in advance, they will not know how to do it… On the other hand, if you do prepare them, they will know how to deal with different situations.
First of all, it is important that you talk to your children about bullying or bullyingBecause in this way they will know that what happens to them is not something individual, they are not to blame for it happening to them and thus they will understand that it is a general problem. He is not alone and will have to tell you what happens from the moment it starts to happen to be able to find solutions as soon as possible.
This is important so they know how to deal with bullying even before it happens. Talk to your children about how to deal with bullies, how to be safe in other circumstances, and deal with these uncomfortable situations. If you also know self-defense techniques, it will be much better.
When people think about self-defense, they only think about how to respond to an attack, that is, learn to take action. In reality, self-defense has nothing to do with hitting or hurting another. It only involves being aware of the environment, listening to instinct and before a problem arises, knowing how to behave with confidence and control the situation correctly.
Self defense techniques
Encouraging fights is never a good idea, but there are some self-defense techniques that can be used to protect yourself from certain attacks. There are techniques that serve to block blows in attacks towards oneself, to free oneself from blows, to withdraw the hand of the aggressor during an attack ... and techniques on how to defend oneself in attacks by more than one person, that is, group attacks. All of this can be learned in self defense classes.
First of all, you have to talk with your children so that they understand that self-defense skills are not to start fights, it is simply for when there is no choice but to use them. Before starting a fight it is necessary to remove yourself from the situation using a firm tone of voice. In addition, there are schools that have zero tolerance for physical violence and can expel both the aggressor and the victim of bullying when these situations occur. Your child should understand exactly what self-defense techniques are for and have a lot of discipline before using them.
Correct body language
One of the best ways to prevent bullying is to make sure children have good self-esteem and confidence. When a child is confident they will be able to have good posture, walk confidently, and maintain eye contact with those around them. Otherwise, if the children do not look at each other, they are left behind in the group, they try to never speak ... they will appear weak and easy points of attack.
You need to work at home, role-playing these techniques. Remind your children that even when they don't feel safe, they should walk confidently and greet others who greet them by looking into the eyes and confidently.
Go in group
Bullies are not usually attracted to attacking children who are in groups or who have quite a few friends. Your child knows that it is best to go to places with more people, or go with a group of friends. If your child does not have a group of friends to take refuge with, then you need to work with him skills so that he has friends. Friendship can protect against bullying. Even a single friend can help prevent bullying.
Trust your instinct
The instinct of people is wise. Children have to learn to understand the environment and the danger signs to get out of the situation. If there are any toxic groups of children nearby, it is better to leave the place. There are certain circumstances that can cause alarms to go off, such as when someone looks at you strangely on the street.
The pit of the stomach warns us of dangers and we have to listen to it. It is a very important vital skill because it helps to be aware of what is happening around and that children are able to avoid attacks. This is also important in adults!
Better to leave than fight
Self-defense techniques are good to know to have better self-confidence, but they should not be used unjustifiably. You need to focus first on leaving the situation rather than dealing directly with what is happening.
Children need to learn that sometimes when things start to go wrong, you have to turn around and walk away. Tell your children that this is not being a coward, it is being smart. It takes courage and bravery to walk away from a situation that is getting too tense. Emphasize to your children that it is necessary to leave a situation before it gets out of hand. If not, the situation could get worse and the bullying begins.
A firm tone of voice
When a child is in a moment of bullying, they will experience nerves and even fear. But even with these feelings, it is necessary to practice a safe tone of voice and work on assertiveness in order to dilute the situation. On many occasions the aggressors are only looking for an easy target and If a child shows self-assurance, bullies may back off and stop bothering.
Practice with your children at home a firm and loud tone of voice. Thus, when they find themselves in an uncomfortable or complicated situation, they can put it on naturally, without sounding forced and they will not forget to put it on because of the situation and their nerves.
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