Rebellion tends to have different roles in the growth of a young person depending on the stage of adolescence in which it is expressed. But, is there also rebellion in the preadolescence or is it only in the later stage of adolescence? We refer to ages between 9 and 13 years.
Serious rebellion usually begins in early adolescence, And when you do, many parents think that this opposition is against you. They are often wrong. The rebellion is not against them; you only act against them.
Rebellion at this age is primarily a process through which the young person rejects the old "child" identity that he or she now wants to shed to clear the way for a more adult redefinition ahead. The rebellion at this age proclaims: "I refuse to be defined and treated like just another child!" Now it is known that it does not want to be defined, but he has yet to discover and establish how he does not want to be defined.
How should parents respond to a strong rebellion at this stage? When requests are fulfilled late, use the patient's insistence to wear down the resistance. And try to move the early teenager from acting to talking. It begins by asking: "Can you help me better understand what you need?"
See if you can get the young man to put his feelings into words. Having received a thorough listening and having your opinion, the youngster may now be more inclined to let the parents get away with it ... Anyway, at this age your child will need rules, limits, norms ... but also understanding and what be wise when choosing your battles. He thinks that his rebellious attitude, if it is healthy, is good for his development.