Having a baby is not easy, but having twins (or more babies!) Can be challenging. Parents of twins, triplets or more will need help and all possible advice at all stages of their children, from birth to adolescence. Raising one baby is tiring, but raising more than one is twice as tiring. So, It is important to take into account everything that we are going to tell you below. Do not lose detail because it can be of great help!
The twins' first year
Coping with two or more babies is one of the most difficult phases of multiple births for parents. Caring for a baby completely dependent on the adult is complicated but when there are two, the demands multiply and the stress, too. Meeting the needs of the little ones requires constant effort all the time.
Both babies need the same basic needs: to eat, love, hygiene… and it is not always available to take turns with another person to be able to take care of the babies. When you are alone with two demanding babies, then you will realize how stress and nerves come into your life, but the best thing you can do is stay calm as anxiety will not help you achieve anything positive.
It is necessary to accept that the first year of the babies will be chaos and absolute fatigue for the parents… there will be very little sleep and there will be dirty diapers everywhere. But you can also enjoy your babies and the wonderful double (or triple!) Maternity.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that you should have all the necessary items that you will need during the first year of life: clothing, diapers, hygiene items, food ... all double! You should also have a good pediatrician to attend to them whenever you need it.
Routines will be essential every day since the little ones arrive in the world. Children need routines to be able to anticipate what happens and what will happen in each moment, something that will provide them with security and emotional comfort. Keep in mind that you will hear many cries, you will change many diapers and you will change their clothes thousands of times ... But the hours to sleep will be scarce ... Although it will be easier than you think as soon as you get organized and start meeting your twins.
After the first year
When the first year of your twins has passed, the most complicated part will be over and everything will seem a little easier because your little ones will be a little older. From the first year, everything becomes easier ... depending on how you look at it. The twins that they are do not stop moving for a second, they are full of energy, they love to explore their world, communicate with each other and with the world ... Twins are bundles of joy and a lot of energy too!
Your home should be a safe place for your little ones since they will spend a lot of time playing with their toys and there may come a time when you don't even know where to put them. You may find challenges such as your children biting, hitting, crying at the same time or moving quickly in different directions ... You will have to be fast to avoid dangers!
But not everything is stressful, you will also begin to sleep more and better, you will begin to say goodbye to the diaper stage and when you look at your children you will not want them to grow, despite everything you will want time to stop! It will be a lot of fun spending time with your little ones.
School-age twins
The school years will also be very interesting… the children are older, more independent and also smarter. Parents will have to make complicated decisions about which school to choose, whether or not they should go in the same class ... Maybe you should fight for the rights of your children and that the school can respect your preferences.
You will also learn about sibling rivalry first hand… although there will also be days when they are best friends. It is possible that the family does not stop for a second a day between after-school classes, sports, homework, friendships ... You may wonder if you spend enough time with your twins, especially in individual time. On birthdays your children will grow up and will have their identities more and more marked ... And you will not explain to yourself how time passes so fast! Adolescence will be knocking on the door.
Frequent problems in the family
Having twins or more will generate family challenges that all parents of more than one child will have to face at the same time, from logistics to solving emotional problems at the same time ... parents sometimes need professional guidance to be able to face this type of situation.
In addition, having more than one baby at the same time can cause tension between the parents and the relationship to suffer, for this reason it is necessary to take care of the marriage. Seeking help from others when you need it and want to have couple time is essential. Sometimes the support of grandparents is a good idea, especially if they are willing and have enough energy to be able to deal with twins or more grandchildren at the same time.
Therefore, there needs to be a lot of organization in the home. Economic administration, order at home, family moments, family experiences, cleaning at home ... everything is important to have it well organized, while being flexible in the things that do not go well or do not go as one had planned.
The Twins
The bond between twin brothers is incredible, special and only experienced by people who have a twin or twin. Sometimes it is common to have some tricks to differentiate identical twins and how to educate them when their behavior is not what is expected of them.
Twins can have a great relationship but it is also necessary to work on social and emotional skills at home to prevent a small conflict from turning into something too tense or difficult to handle.