Educating positively may not be so simple as we imagine, but with good keys, everything can be achieved. This type of teaching sets aside impositions, shouting and punishment so that fathers and mothers can empathize more and better with their little ones. Rather, a series of rules are established, but always with positive reinforcement.
Yes, it may seem a bit confusing but when we give way to the keys, you will see that it is not so complicated. We must have a little patience and always be very close with our children, so that the most appropriate behaviors are favored and those that we really want to see in them. Do you want to know the best keys that will help you in education?
Put yourself in their place and listen to them
Sometimes we tend to anticipate circumstances and raise our voices ahead of time. But that doesn't work when we want to educate positively. In this case what we have to do is to have a great empathy with them, that is, always put ourselves in their place even if it is sometimes complicated. But it is one of the best ways for them to feel comfortable and for us to know more closely what is best for them.
In addition to this, we must listen to them at all times. First we listen and then we assess or take the steps we must. It is very important that we know what really worries them or what makes them so restless. That is why it is vitally important that we are always by their side, but accompanying them with very positive messages.
Change the 'No' for the positive expressions
It is very common to tell them 'Don't do that', but really when we talk about positive education, we have to change the denial. This does not imply letting them do what they want, because there will also be rules but from another point of view. Instead of using the negative like for example: 'Don't yell', we can make the positive shift towards 'speak quieter'. In the language and its intonation there is also the importance of teaching and we must always do it in a correct and balanced tone.
Always with limits
We already mentioned that although it may seem so, positive education also has limits and rules. But perhaps these are not as imposed as the ones we usually know. So boundaries can be drawn but without sounding or looking so authoritative.. So a series of rules must be established but from empathy and affection, leaving aside negativity, shouting or those orders taken to the letter. We can say that there is teamwork, although it is true that 'authority' is established in the eyes of the little ones and they know that it comes from their fathers or mothers.
Encourage them, always rewarding the effort
We must not reward them only when they achieve success, but accompany us and encourage them throughout the journey or path to that resolution. Encouraging them at all times makes them feel protected, with more motivation and of course this will make them reach the goal with an effort behind them but with much more desire. It is a perfect way to make it easier for them to achieve their goals. We will be educating them by offering them self-confidence and this is something that will benefit them in their future life.
Help him to be decisive
Negative thoughts often go around their heads, but we have to make them see that there will always be a way out. That's why, when they think they won't be able to, give them alternatives. It is a way to change the negative for the positive. and attract the latter into their lives. If they are wrong about something, do not be one of the people who scolds them for it, but a new path must be found, a conflict resolution so that they can think positively. It is another of the great keys to educate positively and to apply it to your life in the future.