People have capacities and abilities that we can work on to improve them. One of these skills is resilience, which is the ability to overcome to face life's challenges and emerge stronger. With these tips we can help promote resilience in children, so that they have the necessary skills to stay afloat in the face of adversity.
What is resilience?
As we have seen above, resilience is the capacity that human beings have to overcome and overcome certain adverse and traumatic situations, and emerge stronger.
Resilience can be developed in all stages of life but the sooner we begin to develop it, the better results, since the unpleasant experiences that appear later will be seen and interpreted differently than without this ability. Children are great learners and fostering resilience in them will allow them to develop healthier and be more successful in life.
How to promote resilience in children?
With a few small and simple tips we can make our children more resilient. Since we cannot prevent them from experiencing unpleasant situations, what we can do is give them the necessary tools to cope with them. Having resilience is synonymous with having mental health.
It is one of the best gifts that we can give to our children. It is a personal resource that you will need in your daily life and It will allow them to have a healthier, happier and more positive life.
Build your confidence
To be resilient is necessary to have a good self-esteem. In order to help them have a healthy self-esteem, we can focus on the best qualities of the child, congratulate their achievements, not pressure them too much and let them make decisions for themselves.
It is important that take responsibility for both your actions and your decisions to have a healthy self-esteem. Helping him in everything, not letting him assume his responsibilities and not facing problems will cause him to have low self-esteem and not know how to deal with problems.
Feed the sense of humor
The sense of humor is one of the main characteristics of resilient people. Knowing how to laugh at oneself and see the funny side of situations, favors adaptation to adverse situations since it takes the issue away.
You can help him feed his sense of humor through example of your conduct and through Children's Stories where it is about resilience, and the characters look for the funny side of situations.
See the bright side of things
All situations have a negative and a positive part. Knowing how to look for the positive side is a skill that stimulates optimism and positivity, since it allows us to know how to find more suitable solutions and minimizes the negative effect of the situation.
To teach children to have a positive attitude in the face of adversity we can do it with our example. When negative things happen to ourselves and how we deal with it. Show him that negative thinking not only doesn't work, it limits you, and doesn't allow you to think or act clearly.
Encourage helping others
You cannot work on resilience without knowing how to put yourself in the place of others. Empathy is necessary to know how to put yourself in the place of others and to be able to develop emotionally.
Explain that not everyone has what you have, encourage generosity by asking them to choose their toys to give to poor children. Help him when he needs it and encourage him to do it with other people who need it, that he learns to read the emotions of others and know when someone needs a hug, a shoulder to cry on, a kiss or an "I'm by your side for whatever you need."
What sets goals
The fact of setting goals is very valuable to assess our capabilities and resources according to the goals set. It will stimulate your self-control, your self-esteem and personal worth.
You can help him choose realistic and measurable goals, teach him techniques and strategies to achieve better results and improve his skills, and celebrate his successes with him.
Because remember ... the best gifts for children are not things, they are values and skills.