Many adolescents are stressed and anxious and the vast majority do not know why or what is happening to them. On many occasions this happens because they are not able to recognize their emotions. In their childhood, Emotional Intelligence was not worked on and therefore, they do not know what happens to them or what to do to feel better. If this is the case, it is important to help a teenager who is feeling stressed. and anxiously to manage their emotions well.
Being anxious and depressed is a part of the life of every teenager and also of any person. It is important to take enough time to listen to your teenagers and find out why they feel that way, make them understand why they are like this and especially, guide them to find out which are the best or most useful solutions that they need to carry out to feel better.
Emotions in adolescence
The teenage years can be very hard, they are marked with physical and emotional changes, new options and responsibilities, and the evolution of relationships with the people around us. But Hormones aren't the only thing teens worry about. Young people increasingly show their general inability to identify the source of their distress and pain. These results have serious implications for their emotional development, since knowing what makes us feel bad is essential to be able to find the relevant solutions.
Increasing the pace of life creates more stress for teens and gives them less time to deal with potential obstacles. Technology has provided valuable tools for gathering information and connecting, but at the expense of another important connection: the connection with family. Family connection and parental guidance is essential for children to be able to face real life.
Many teens and parents have been able to navigate this muddy terrain by adjusting schedules and emotional connection in unique ways depending on each family, but teens who are predisposed to anxiety and mental health issues are struggling harder than ever. to feel better, but without knowing how to do it, they will only feel worse over and over again.
Teens find their purpose through relationships
Adolescents, when they feel less connected to their families and to their peers or friends (which tends to happen often in our increasingly busy world), their mental health problems become exacerbated and become a serious problem.
To make things more difficult for teenagers, the world keeps moving fast around them and they are unable to figure out what exactly they care about or how to reach family members or who they love but think they are not too connected and They wish they were wrong What they know for sure is that they are anxious, depressed or that they feel very bad ... And they feel unable to get better, they feel lonely and hopeless.
Adolescents are struggling more than ever with anxiety, depression and thoughts of suicide, so it is necessary that both parents and the adults around them should be alert to the possible signs that these adolescents are not emotionally well.
How can we help struggling teens understand exactly what they are struggling for and how they feel? It is necessary that they name their emotions and above all, that they know how to find what makes them feel bad in order to thus find the appropriate solutions. Part of the solution, it seems, is as simple as it is revolutionary: reduce our hours, put our phones aside and listen to everything they have to say to us, even if it is without words.
Hearing a voice and making a personal connection is critical and not always straightforward, as depressed teens often lack the communication skills to express what they feel. Parents often feel tied hand and foot because they don't know how to deal with these situations.
How to Help an Anxious and Stressed Teen
If you think that your teenager is anxious, stressed or depressed, it will be essential that you take into account some basic points to be able to help him and that he feels close to you. It is possible that at first he does not want to talk or communicate or try to make you see that nothing is wrong ... But the reality is that they do need you to feel close, even if they don't show you or try to make you see the opposite.
These are some basic points that you should keep in mind to be able to get involved in the feelings of your teenagers and thus help them and that they feel supported all the time from you:
- Look for the signs. Changes in your child's behavior, a change in mood or in the way they live life or perceive things, will cause them to feel physical changes such as headaches or problems eating and sleeping. This can be clear indications of physical or physical and emotional pain.
- Make your teens understand that it's okay to feel bad, it's normal and you don't have to feel guilty about it. The key is to find the solutions to feel better. For them, help your children to identify what the general feelings are and let them know that life goes on and that they will be able to feel good again to study, laugh and have fun again.
- Prioritize time to spend together as a family. Organize family outings, lunch or dinner together at least a couple of times a week (without television or mobile phones). Build and nurture personal family relationships so that your adolescent children feel within a stable family nucleus and thus, learn to express themselves and know that they are listened to and respected by their loved ones. Your teenagers need you even if they don't want to show you.