In just one month the children will have finished school and you probably already know more or less what their grades will be. The effort they have made throughout the school year will be reflected in the report card and this may be good news or, on the contrary, that the grades are not quite what you all expect at home. Ratings may be good or bad, but after all they are just numbers.
A child who has made an effort will be able to get good grades, for those who have not made an effort, they will not be so much ... But there may also be other variables that can make the grades not very good, but that does not mean that the child has not tried everything he could or knew. This must also be taken into account.
There are children who during the school year may have family conflicts, problems with friends or any other circumstance that has lowered their academic performance, but in this sense the child needed to be emotionally well to be able to perform academically. Or maybe also the grades were not good enough because the child has learning difficulties and you haven't received the help you need.
Whatever the cause of your children's suspensions, it is necessary that before you feel frustrated or angry with them, be understanding of the situation and think about exactly what has happened so that your child has failed. What are the causes and what should be done to be able to find the necessary changes so that everything goes better in the next course.
A negative attitude will not improve your grades
Many parents, when their children fail, decide to punish them, reproach them for the vagrancy they have had throughout the school year and quickly point out that only they are to blame for having such poor grades. Although it is true that if a boy or girl gets bad grades, they should not be rewarded for it, reproaching them for how badly they have done it won't do any good… Only that the next course is the same or worse because they learn that it is their fault. If you label him things like "you are not intelligent", "you don't know how to do anything" ... you can only wait for what you are saying to happen in the future.
You need to forget about negativity and not keep it in mind when your child comes home with a report card with failures.. You should think together with your child what has happened so that there has been this result. Children do not want to have poor results in school and when grades start to fail 100% of the time there is something behind that is preventing them from reaching their goals.
The importance of a positive attitude
If you want your child to have good results in the future, you must have a positive attitude in these circumstances. I do not mean that you applaud or reward him for failing, far from it. But yes, he should see in you an attitude of improvement in the future instead of an attitude of anger or frustration that makes him feel guilty or feel that he has no remedy because he is "a bad student."
No child is a bad student you just have to know if something is happening or what is the most comfortable way of learning. He may not be feeling well emotionally or he may need academic reinforcement during the school year.
Find solutions to problems that have occurred
If your child has failed subjects you should have a conversation with him and after finding out why it happenedor look for the right consequences between the two. For example, if you have failed because you have not made an effort, you will have to look for a consequence that helps you to make an effort during the summer and that the same thing will not happen again next year. It is necessary that you be attentive to their behavior and school grades during the course so that it does not repeat itself and that your child feels you close and by their side, so they can have better results.
If the bad grades have been due to emotional problems, it will be necessary to get to the bottom of the matter to find out what is causing you discomfort and to remedy it as soon as possible. For example, if you have trouble with friends, signing up for extracurricular activities may be a good idea. If you have recently divorced your partner and misses his father, it might not hurt to strengthen the bond if possible. If you feel that something is wrong and that you are not sure what it could be, then do not hesitate to go to a professional to help you control your emotions and feel better internally.
Prevent it from happening again
There is no better way to prevent something bad from happening than by preventing it from happening. To do this, if this course your child has gotten bad grades, it will be more than necessary to put a solution so that next year it does not happen. Your child will need your support and understanding. If necessary at the beginning of the course, you can go to a Psychopedagogy professional to help your child learn to study, organize time, make a calendar, prioritize the content to study ...
You can also receive tutoring classes if you see it necessary ... or look for the appropriate solutions depending on each specific case. But the most important thing is not to point out the bad that has happened and always look for solutions for improvement, that the child feels responsibility for his actions but above all, that he knows that he has the power to change things for the better and that you will be there. your side to get it. Remember that a child does not want to get bad grades, so you have to find out what happens and solve it. The next course is sure to be better!