Tips when your children misbehave

Children, children are. In their investigation to discover the world and our limits, children sometimes do not behave as they should. And many parents do not know how to best manage this situation or how to say it to make it more effective. It is increasingly known that punishments are not effective, and parents become frustrated in the hard task of educating. Let's see some advice when your children misbehave.

How we parents usually react

When a child does a mischief, parents usually do the same almost as if unconsciously. They are usually techniques that our parents used with us and that we assume as valid, or we simply do not know how to do it otherwise.

The first is scold them. “NO, that is not done. I have told you a thousand times that NO ”. We constantly repeat what they have to do and still the expected result is not achieved. In the article "How to say no to a child in a positive way" I give you tips to change negative language for a more positive and effective one. It is about leaving the no for more dangerous situations so that it does not lose its meaning, and leave the positive language for the rest of the situations. It is much more effective and we also educate positively.

Then comes the negociación. Try to reach an agreement to please both parties. It does not usually have good results.

And when you lose your cool lthe screams come. You feel helpless, frustrated, and exhausted. Nothing you do seems to have an effect and your patience wears out at times. You opt for punishment to get some result. They may be disproportionate, or too long or too short. But punishments are also not usually very effective in the long term. So what can we parents do when our children misbehave? Well, we leave you some very interesting tips that we hope will help you.

Tips when your children misbehave

• It is not personal. Even if your children get on your nerves, they don't behave like that to drive you crazy. It is not something personal, children push you to the limit to know how far they can go. So that you can tell them how far they can go, and why, so that we can tell them the things that cannot and can be done.
• Try to connect emotionally with your child. Many times parents want to put an end to bad behavior as soon as possible, and we forget that children have their own emotional world. Let him explain, ask him why he does it. You are sure to be surprised by the answer and get a lot of interesting information. Improves parent-child communication.
• Change the education of punishment for education in consequences. In the article "Punish or educate in application of consequences?" He explained the secondary effects of the traditional method of punishment and the benefits of educating accordingly and how to do it. The results are much better and more effective in the long term, which is what interests us. The rules must be clear, concise and known to all, and also know the consequence of not following them. Consequences must be applied to take effect.
• Do it in private. If you have to give it a touch of attention, do it in private. Corrected in public can backfire and have the opposite result. He congratulates himself in public and draws attention in private.or. This way the child will be attentive to your words and not to how others must be seeing the situation.
• Be attentive to their behavior. Normally there are already signs in their behavior that tell us that things can go further. Try to cut that behavior before it gets out of hand and goes further. This way we will avoid unpleasant situations before they occur.

Because remember ... do not forget that they are children, they cannot control their behavior as an adult would. Be patient and take advantage of those moments to teach your child values, limits and positive discipline.