Valentine's Day. It is possible that at this point, after so many bottles, sleepless nights, homework afternoons, walks to the park and maybe even tanned in the chaotic emotional and rebellious world of a teenager, the word "Valentine" sounds to you like what you celebrated in a too remote past.
Or even more, you may also see this date as a simple marketing event in which your partner limits himself to giving you that usual orchid that ends up withering, almost without knowing how, after a week. From "Mothers today" we invite you to take a breath, make a point in your chores and simply "give yourself time". Allow yourself a special day through three possibilities, we are sure that you are going to sign up for one.
To celebrate or not to celebrate Valentine's Day?
You have to celebrate it, and it does not matter if you have a partner, if you are a single mother or if you have an extensive family numerous where silence is already that precious asset that you hardly even think exists. The need to celebrate this date is a way of giving ourselves a few hours to allow us to bond, either with the person we love, with ourselves and of course with the little ones.
- The key to enjoying a good Valentine's Day is being original, letting ourselves be carried away and avoiding above all falling into the same thing as every year.
- Cultivate the value of small details: Before saving to give your partner a good gift, it is worth highlighting on this occasion simpler and more basic aspects that make us get out of the routine. An unexpected note, an unplanned appointment ... Anything that is out of the routine is already a gift in itself.
- We must celebrate Valentine's Day and transmit to our children not the value of the material, of the media pressure and of the marketing that forces us to consumerism. Let the children be part of this festivity where love is the maximum expression, and where it fits, why not, that affection between parents and children. Make the bond itself a fun celebration.
Three ways to celebrate Valentine's
Celebrate Valentine's Day with your friends
Being a mother does not have to limit our moments of leisure and complicity with our social relationships, with our friends. It is clear that the moment our first child arrives, life gives us a change and we are almost out of breath. However, a change is an adaptation to new circumstances, and not a break with a past not even less with the aspects that define us.
- Your friends are important to you, they are your support, your oxygen window, your moments of confidences help and laughter to vent. Staying with them one night to celebrate Valentine's Day will charge you with positive energies with which to strengthen your emotional network.
- There is no obligation to have to celebrate this day exclusively with our partner. So, we can very well make a little outing, dress for the occasion, and above all, relax the mind and enjoy a good moment.
- Friendship is a bond of affection that builds us up and that we all need in our day to dayThus, a Valentine's Day with friends is an excellent option with which to paint a smile, and build a pleasant moment of leisure and enjoyment with people who are significant to us.
Valentine's Day with the family: an enriching and fun experience
Valentine's Day can be a very fun little house party if we organize it well. Do not worry if your children are still very young or if they are at that age where they can already celebrate on their own with their first partners from school or high school.
Celebrating it at home can be a way to have a good time, to give value to the fact of "celebrating" love, the affection and the complicity of that bond that nourishes our hearts so that they themselves can integrate affection into their own lives.
- A good idea would be to organize a meal at home, there is no need to spend a lot of money going out.
- We can prepare some cake with the children, ideally that they have a heart shape (we can make cookies, jellies, fruit platters with this shape).
- Food should be something different and fun, have a small picnic in the living room, for example, something relaxed. It is not necessary to complicate too much, it is only about creating pleasant moments that remain in the emotional memory of our children.
- We can write postcards where we can say "why do we love Mom, Dad", and of course the other way around, a small letter writing the reasons why our children are special and why we want them too. Emphasize the positive.
- Taking into account the age of our children we can prepare one thing or another to be something original, and friendly.
Valentine's Day as a couple: a good habit
Good manners must not be lost, they must be renewed. It is useless to celebrate Valentine's Day just because, because it plays and because we always do. Sometimes routines are like rugs that bring us comfort but also habit and insane monotony. Do not let that happen.
Valentine must be a special occasion every year for you. It does not matter that motherhood has arrived, fatherhood, that now your life has been filled with new responsibilities: Valentine's is the perfect occasion to celebratear that love that is renewed and built every day through the most essential acts.
- Mark this day with a few hours to yourself exclusively. If you can afford it, it would be ideal to spend the whole day.
- Sometimes a lot of preparation takes away spontaneity from this day, so It is not worth setting high expectations for yourself or organizing every minute of that celebration: letting yourself go.
- To better appreciate those hours of intimacy, focus only on the "here and now". As parents, you spend most of your time making lists, keeping schedules, thinking about tomorrow and the future of the day after tomorrow.
- Focus only on what you have before you: the look of your partner. Savor the moment, that quiet walk, that food with intense flavors, allow yourselves to be free for a few hours and the world stops. Millions of people may be celebrating their Valentine's too, but you "have your own", the one that matters.
Valentine's Day is worth celebrating, in any way you like. For our part, we recommend you carry out the three ways to make it more complete and enriching. However, you choose ... Which do you prefer?